House of Hayvn
← Journal

The third glass

What we inherit is not always our choice. What we pass on can be.

October 2026

We think about the Three Glasses a lot.

The first glass holds black cola: the pain, fear, silence and unhealthy patterns that were poured into each generation. Those who poured it did not choose to harm anyone. They poured from what had already been poured into them.

The second glass is ours

We did not choose everything that was poured into us, but we can choose what we do with it. Every difficult conversation, apology and healthy boundary is like pouring a little of the black away and replacing it with clean water. Not overnight. Every day.

The third glass belongs to those who come after us

Our hope is not to be perfect. It is that because we did the work, less darkness is poured into them, and more honesty, compassion and hope.

It is not about blame. It begins with gratitude for the good we received, honesty about what we inherited, and responsibility for what we choose now.

One small question

What is one thing you would like to pour away, and one thing you would like to pour in?

The first step

Want to talk about it?

Book a free 15-minute call, or write to us. There is no pressure.

Need help now?Book a free call